You are calling the wrong person

Dating, marriage, and relationships have become a bit of a tight spot for many people who either believe or praise love, affection, and emotions. When your heart bends towards her scent, the way she walks, talks, or smiles, you are in for some desirable trouble.

Like anything else that involves feeling, physical contact, emotion, and a heart beat, relationships are not just a ride in the park like many GenZers might think them to be. They come with hurdles, differences, and difficulties which actually need a certain level of discipline and maturity otherwise the bubble is burst.

Let’s talk about cheating. Women, like men also cheat, and this is not always some sort of revenge because one party committed the forbidden crime. Unless you’re in an open, polyamorous relationship, engaging sexually with someone who isn’t your partner is almost always considered cheating- and it hurts (I hear).

If you’ve ever been cheated on, you know that it feels pretty awful. It’s a blow to your ego and your self-esteem and your character. Self blame is then born and usually partners have hard time sorting their issues out, trust fades, and usually the relationship withers.

However, even when it comes to sorting issues out as partners, some level of humanity, and discipline are involved. Many people rush to call out, abuse, shame, beat or bully the other party instead of spending all this energy on their partner or saving the relationship.

Today morning, I overheard my neighbor talking to some other dude who apparently slept with his fiancee. Well as the other party was calm in spelling out the facts that he didn’t know the woman was engaged, my neighbor was screaming out threats and abuses that the other guy just hang up.

When your partner cheats, it often times means their is something you are doing wrong. Many counselors in such  circumstances will advice that you sort it out internally, but humans are not humane anymore, they are animals and so internally, it most times doesn’t work, still.

Having been in many relationships my whole life, I have learnt that knowing the cause of the arguments or problems in relationships can solve you a whole lot or even a breakup. Take time and listen to your partner, know what they want and how they want it, and, try to believe that sex is not the sole cause of cheating, many things are involved.

Calling out, abusing, threatening, the wrong party will only make you hurt more- trust me. Breath, Breath, Breath and don’t attack someone who might be naive of your relationship. When you feel like you can’t take it, dissolve the relationship, don’t attack innocent people.

 

 

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3 comments

  1. Shawn, I’ve learnt that;
    •When your partner cheats, there’s most probably something you’re doing wrong.

    •Also, that you have been in a lot of relations your whole life😂😂😂

    Great stuff though!

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